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Oily Oik
I’m due to marry my long-term fiancé in September but she’s thrown a massive spanner in the works by confessing to an affair with her boss in 2022.
What’s even worse is the affair went on for two years and I had absolutely no idea. She’s asking me to forgive her and says she feels so much better now that this is off her chest, but how am I supposed to react? I know this guy. I’ve met him at her work events.
He’s as oily and flash as he’s crude and aggressive. He’s a show-off and speaks to people like dirt. I was once outside smoking with him, and he openly bragged about the dozens staff members he’s bonked over the years. His descriptions of sex in the toilets and on the office flat roof put me off my vape.
How could my lovely girl stand to be touched by that gorilla? What does that say about her?
JANE SAYS: You must question your fiancé’s loyalty and commitment to you. Why was she tempted to cheat in the first place (and for such a long time) and can you trust her never to cheat again? What if her ex-boss/lover comes back into her life again?
Or she fancies another person? Give yourself time to think and don’t feel forced into this marriage if you don’t feel ready or 100 per cent sure. I get the impression that you’re suddenly questioning whether you know her at all.
Especially as her taste in lovers is so questionable….
He’s ashamed of us
Our son has threatened to walk out of our lives because he believes that we should give him more money. He’s 32 and about to get married again.
He’s angry that we weren’t able to find the deposit for a flat or cash for a car. The truth is that we only have enough to live on. What comes in with one hand goes out with the other.
Luckily my mother was still alive when he got married the first time, but the £6,000 she gave him was her life savings. Now he’s mixing with a lot of successful, rich friends and he’s bitter that we’re so poor.
He says that we’re an embarrassment; we should have worked harder and invested in properties over the years. The other day, during a terrible row, he admitted that he sometimes tells new friends he’s an orphan because he’s so ashamed of us.
JANE SAYS: I suggest you tell your son to grow up and get over himself. He sounds like a revolting brat with a massive sense of entitlement.
You must have done something right if he’s living a good life now. Stand up for yourselves and do not allow him to treat you like trash. Insist on a family meeting and make it clear how much he’s insulted and upset you. Maybe you aren’t property magnets, but someone fed, washed and loved him as a child and that someone was you.
Equally, he was never hurt, threatened or abused, so he can thank his father for that too. In short, he may not feel he had a perfect life, but it was pretty darn good in plenty of other ways.
If he measures everything in terms of pounds and pence, then he’s going to end up a very bitter, shallow individual.
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